When we hear the above phrase, we often think of it as a useless, silly activity to try to help ourselves cope with feeling down or stressed. We may say that say that we should instead be talking to a counselor, a cleric or reading a recent book by Dr. Phil. I thoroughly enjoy Phil, my Rabbi and find that counseling is useful, but, but buying and shopping are not dirty words. Many studies have found that when we relieve our mood by shopping, the relief we experience tends to last a long time past the purchase. (Timothy Legg Psy.d). The effects of "Retail Therapy" do not have to be negative.
Most people involved in caring for themselves by using "retail" do tend to stay within their budgets and tend to shop within reasonable means to enjoy a temporary mood boost that makes them feel better. Of course, if you shop constantly to make yourself feel better, then this can be problematic. Temporary mood boosts that help you to feel better when shopping have been found to be helpful however, especially if not accompanied by feelings of unnecessary guilt or significant financial problems. Like with fried chicken and Christmas cake, moderation is the key.
When you are buying things you don't need, hiding your purchases and find that you are not able to control yourself, you may then consider yourself a compulsive shopper. Retail Therapy, on the other hand, allows you to feel good after a purchase that has reduced your stress and sadness.
Hints to apply:
1. Stay within your budget.
2. Window shop first.
3. Give yourself a waiting period before buying all things that strike your fancy.
There is no need to deny yourself. Retail Therapy can help you. Dig in. Just don't dig down. Get therapeutic help if you feel the need for it. There need be no stigma around mental health problems,
I could write more deeply, but, at this cold holiday season, there is a red cashmere sweater that has my name on it. I have earned it. "See you later.................."