We start the morning with it. We carry it in our conversations throughout most of the day and we say goodnight by summarizing it. Certainly it is important to be aware of pandemic news but I need time to discuss things that are not related to the illness that seems to have overshadowed and overwhelmed most moments of our lives. Let's find a few hours each day to find subjects that have nothing to do with widespread disease. There really are several chit chats and discussions that we can have that are unrelated to the coronavirus.
When issues about corona come up, you can change the conversation to how your friend is coping with the "new normal." Ask about any new hobbies. Review great movies now that Netflix has become a new family member. Talk about pets, books, and spring planting. And, by all means, don't be shy about saying something like "I really love talking to you but for now I need to find something more encouraging to talk about." It really is OK to say that you need a break.
You can also use video calls to open up conversations about your friends' homes and decorating ideas. You can also ask about children and even talk with children about the skills they enjoy, Try playing games with both adults and children. When you can't think about anything else, look for interesting stories on the world wide web to share. Did you hear the one about....?
Do not compare your own symptoms to those of another. "I know this is tough for you but it is even more tough for me."
And then there are questions that so many folks like to answer: Suggestions from Sanam Yar at the New York Times include:
What new recipes do you have?
Are you reading a good book?
Do you take walks or bike rides?
How is your family?
Have a great health-giving day with at least some disease-free hours. I adore Anderson Cooper and Chris Como, but ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Where is "I Love Lucy" when I need her?